Every teenager is sexually active. What I mean by this is that every teenager is growing and making choices about what to do sexually. Most people think ‘sexually active’ means having sex. But that’s not the definition we are working with here.

Did you know…
Boy typically hit puberty at 14 years old
Girls typically hit puberty at 13 years old
Boys typically get married at 26 years old
Girls typically get marries at 24 years old

How do you think the gap between puberty and marriage relates to our sexual desires?

We are looking at “DESIRE” today. So what is it? What is desire? It’s something you long for, a craving, a wish. Is desire good or bad? Both. Desire can be good in that it can light us on fire to accomplish huge things in life. It can also steer us down the wrong path becasue we feel we deserve it or need. Which leads me to ask, what is a ‘need’? It’s a necessity, something you have to have otherwise you die. So is sexual fulfillment a desire or need? It’s a desire! Not a need. You won’t die if you don’t have sex. I know several men and women who are in their 50′s who have never been married and have never had sex.

Read what Jesus is teaching about this. What do you think Jesus’ definition of adultery is? What about his definition of lust? It’s when we just think about the act of sex with somebody. WOW! That’s hard to wrap around our minds isn’t it? Jesus is saying that if the act is wrong, so is the desire. Here is where desire is bad for us.

Paul talks about this issue as well.

Sex is meant to be within a marriage ONLY! I know it’s difficult and everyone stuggles with this. Here’s my suggestion, when you find yourself struggling with this…RUN! Run as if your life depended on it. It won’t be easy, but I share from personal experience. I am better off now in my marriage because I chose to run when I was tempted.